You might remember in the December issue we talked
about Christmas and what Christmas means to both of us.
My main concern was that there were not enough color
lights in my world at this time of the year. Since
she always decorates with white lights every year,
I had sort of lost touch with the excitement of
Christmas trees being decorated with color lights.
How exactly does all of this relate to true love?
Let me share a story with you and then you can
judge whether this is the definite definition of
true love. Right after we finished the column for
December I left to go to a meeting. This was at night.
Now I had complained fairly strongly, as I am apt
to do sometimes, about the white lights vs colored
lights problem. When I arrived back at her house
later that night, she had put up another Christmas
tree and decorated it with colored lights and all
of the trimmings just for me. (She already had a
7 foot tree decorated with white lights in the living room).
This is what I call going the extra mile, without a
hint to me, without me asking or badgering her into
doing it. She did this to please me. She did this
because she loves me and wanted to make me happy.
This is one way to prove to someone how much you
love them. To her I say, Happy Valentine's Day and I love you.
Now you know why I put up with him. Wasn't that just
the sweetest thing for him to do?
( Expressing his love to me publicly in our column).
He could have just as easily complained about the
gifts that I gave him for Christmas. (One of which
was a GPS with a female voice for those who are keeping score).
I wanted to see if there was another female voice
he would listen to besides his mothers') I laughed
all the way to the cashier just thinking about the
double entendre: Larry following driving directions
while listening to a female voice! As far as the
extra tree goes, I had an extra one with plenty of
decorations so why not use it instead of letting it
collect dust in the basement. It sure beat listening
to him whine about not having colored lights.
Seriously, I did want to please him. I wanted to
surprise him. It certainly did those things
and he was exceedingly glad. It was a nice touch
to the house and made me realize that he needs
or wants certain things in his life, that maybe
I would not choose, but makes him happy. As all
couples know when both of you are happy life is
so much easier. Of course this doesn't mean he
will help more around the house, that he will
help take down the tree, wash more dishes, or
even cut the yard this spring. However, for the
month of December all was bliss, we got to see
all our children, we ate more than we ever needed,
we saw both of our parents, went to Virginia Beach
and Myrtle Beach,and had two trees that we both
enjoyed. To us, that's what relationships and
holidays are all about. I still need a dryer,
but he is not pushing the pre-nup as much;
and he got color lights on a Christmas
tree this year. Life is good.