Valentine Stuff

He Said

Christmas is my favorite time of the year. My second
favorite time of the year is Valentines. Everyone
is in love, most people are sharing Valentine gifts,
and even couples who are just in love marginally,
are at least pretending to be in love on February 14th.
Sounds good so far, right? What about love in
the he said she said house. I might have mentioned a time
or two that my fiance' is a project person.
I walked into the bedroom one day last weekend and she was
laying tile on the bathroom floor. I mean measuring,
cutting, gluing or stapleing these carpet pieces to the
floor. I would have had to dread that job for week. It's
true that we went to Lowe's and bought all that stuff,
but I figured the job of laying that stuff would be a
summertime project at the very earliest. We were not
in the house ten minutes and she was laying whatever
that stuff was. I mention all of this because that day
she was more excited and more thrilled than she has ever
been when I have given her candy, or flowers, or a
special candlelight dinner at a restaurant out of town.
How do you top new flooring? I'll tell you. You don't.
So this February please don't tell her, but I have been
looking seriously at new counter tops at one of the
local hardware stores . This will be one Valentine
present that she will always remember.

And she thought she was smarter at shopping than I am.
This will be a gift of love that last a lifetime.


She Said

Do you know how many times you used the word “stuff”?
“Stuff” has no meaning. It's a garbage can term for
people with a limited vocabulary. But I can overlook
it this time if you want to talk about my projects.
My bathroom floor was cold so I carpeted it. True,
it was rather quickly after I bought the materials
(not stuff!) but school was starting back after the
holidays so it was a time-crunch thing. I will also
take exception to your attack on me about choosing
projects over a romantic dinner out or flowers.
(I may as well take candy, bypass my mouth and slap
it right on my hips!) How many times have I told you
how gorgeous the ladies room wallpaper is or how much
I loved the décor in certain restaurants? See...I can
be romantic, too. So what if I'm planning to copy it
at a later date. Remember when our favorite song came
on and I asked you to dance? I wasn't even worried about
scratching the floor that I had just waxed and polished.
I actually waited until you left before I got out the
buffer and touched it up. So let's see...what can I
get you for Valentines? I can't seem to think of
anything unique so I guess I'll have to go to Lowes
or Home Depot to try and find just the right “stuff”.

He Said She Said - Love in February

He Said

Here is what I know about love.
It comes once a year on February 14th.
That is the one day that I know I am
loved. People tell me. Cards tell me.
Balloons tell me. On a good Valentine's
Day, candy even tells me.
Let's look at the other 364 days of the
year. Where are my presents? Where are
my cards? Where are my flowers? I want
to be loved all the year round. This
part-time love isn't working for me
anymore. I want everyday to be Valentine's
Day. Instead, every day is like Halloween,
spooky and scary.
According to Hallmark, every month there
is a holiday of some sort, but if they
had it their way, every day would be a
holiday. I am offering them that chance.
Make every day a day of Love. It would
certainly satisfy my love needs. I don't
require presents, cards, flowers, or candy
every day, even though I could get used
to it. However, a love nudge, holding hands,
a little kissy mouth, anything to let me
know I am appreciated daily would be great!
This might take away from February 14th a
little bit, but think about how we would
feel with the whole world being in love
each and every day. I am starting to feel
a little like John Lennon and the Beatles.
I could have asked for every day to be like
Christmas, but I know that is way out of
bounds. It would take too many decorations
and too much money to make that work,even
for Hallmark. I will just keep asking for
the love day with the hope that someone(hint
hint)might just hear me and respond. Just
tell me you love me and show it by your
daily touch.
Happy Valentine's every day of the year.

She Said

But I like Valentine's Day and the fact that
it only comes once a year makes it really
special. Too much of a good thing diminishes
it's worth. For me, Valentine's Day has always
been a time to let my special someone and my
children know how much I love them.
On Valentine's Day, when the children were
still at home, I always had little gifts and
candy waiting for them in their chairs at
breakfast before they left for school. It was
a nice way to start their day. Of course my
significant other always received more presents
and or attention because like he said, it's a
day to show unconditional love.
You do bring up some good points, however.
Showering that special person with gifts, flowers,
candy every day wouldn't mean as much as little
acts of kindness such as helping out around the
house without being asked, planning a night out
as a surprise, or doing favors for in-laws. Those
are genuine acts of love and respect for our
relationship.
Remember the night we "kidnapped" our friends and
took them to a restaurant without telling them
where we were going? They even called their son
and laughingly told him that in case he didn't see
them again, they were with us! It was all in good
fun and they knew how much we cared about them.
We don't have to be "in" love with someone to show
them that we love them.
During the eulogy that you gave at the burial of
your best friend, it was extremely evident how
much you loved and cherished him. It didn't have
to be Valentine's Day for you to express those
feelings. At the funeral home visitation, our
former classmates expressed loving thoughts for
each other, which is what this time of year should
be...a reminder that on Valentine's Day,it would
be a good idea to tell all the special people in
your life that you love them.